This post is so relatable. I’ve also stayed far too long with “energy vampires,” and spent years and money in therapy trying to rebuild myself after what someone else broke. That’s why it’s so important to speak openly about these experiences, especially for the younger generation. We need to shout from the rooftops: this is NOT okay.
And therapy is never wasted money. If we stayed with someone who drained us, there was a reason, lessons we still needed about trusting ourselves, setting boundaries, and protecting our own peace. Some people are born with that instinct; others, learn it by living through it.
This is also why community matters, especially a community of women. A circle where you can share, trust, be held, and when it’s time to leave, know without hesitation that your people have your back.
Recognizing sunk cost and choosing yourself is growth. Good riddance and onwards :)
I'm surprised by how many people actually could relate and even shared worse (!) stories! It's sad, and yes, YES: We need to shout from the rooftops: this is NOT okay.
It's the same story: therapy is needed, even though it is not always possible (especially in stories where money is gone). It's indeed so important to have our people (usually us, women, who save ourselves).
(Thanks for reading and for such a powerful message)
This post is so relatable. I’ve also stayed far too long with “energy vampires,” and spent years and money in therapy trying to rebuild myself after what someone else broke. That’s why it’s so important to speak openly about these experiences, especially for the younger generation. We need to shout from the rooftops: this is NOT okay.
And therapy is never wasted money. If we stayed with someone who drained us, there was a reason, lessons we still needed about trusting ourselves, setting boundaries, and protecting our own peace. Some people are born with that instinct; others, learn it by living through it.
This is also why community matters, especially a community of women. A circle where you can share, trust, be held, and when it’s time to leave, know without hesitation that your people have your back.
Recognizing sunk cost and choosing yourself is growth. Good riddance and onwards :)
I'm surprised by how many people actually could relate and even shared worse (!) stories! It's sad, and yes, YES: We need to shout from the rooftops: this is NOT okay.
It's the same story: therapy is needed, even though it is not always possible (especially in stories where money is gone). It's indeed so important to have our people (usually us, women, who save ourselves).
(Thanks for reading and for such a powerful message)