Dear Diary is a monthly love letter to the mess and magic of relationships — with others, and with myself.
This evening we’ll have our How to Read Tarot for Your Besties Workshop on Thursday, 12.02 at 18:00, a Galentine’s night, for intuitive and fun girl talk hosted by me at the launch of Peach Studios, Kamppi. It’s gonna be magical and full of surprises! If you can’t join, we still have one last spot in our Brunch Book Club the following week.
It’s damn cold outside, so grab a hot chocolate and enjoy the five-minute read 🗝
I know it’s not much for many people, but it’s my personal record: I’ve been proudly going to the gym for three weeks. It has already become a sacred time where nothing can hurt me or reach me. The perfect way to start off the day.
However, I made a mistake.
I opened my social media during a 10-minute elliptical warm-up. You know how ridiculously sensitive I am to it. Exactly. The anxiety monster topped me with cream and—SNAP!—I was dessert before lunchtime. Luckily, I had a therapy session that day, and my therapist quickly rescued me.
Using our phones while we exercise tends to spike our cortisol — yes, cortisol, aka stress hormone — and drops the quality of the exercise. Can’t believe I’m talking about exercising! We can blame (or thank) the vision board we did last month. It’s God Damn Working.
Speaking of therapy, I actually started this entry to share something my therapist said that blew my mind 🤯
What I Learned in My Last Therapy Session
“What we undervalue in ourselves, we fail to appreciate in others — and vice versa.”
She said this to nudge me while I was whining about people who don’t respect my time. She walked me through different situations where I disrespect my own time, emotions, energy, effort, truth, ideas, space, priorities, and promises. All that mirrors how people treat me.
I already knew people treat us the way we treat ourselves. But I had only applied it to romantic relationships and never realized it holds for everyone who crosses our path.
If I were a mom, I’d be thinking about how to raise kids who respect themselves unapologetically. I’m a tarot reader, though. So I’m thinking about The Lovers x The Devil.
Reflection and projection: what I notice or dismiss in myself is mirrored in how I treat others.
The Lovers have an angel blessing their naked souls because they stayed loyal to themselves and nurtured each other’s deepest truth. They didn’t take shortcuts that kept them trapped in vicious cycles. They didn’t negotiate their souls with the Devil or disrespect themselves for instant gratification.
The Devil, on the other hand, chains the couple who sold their souls to get what they wanted immediately instead of doing the hard things.
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