Oh, hi. It’s me, Tass. This newsletter is an invitation for an unhinged conversation, the kind we could have over brunch or a glass of wine with friends who actually care.
We don’t just talk, we meet in real life too:
If you make it all the way to the bottom, there’s a second invitation for a free tarot reading night—and some very cute pictures of me as a wedding officiant. Can you believe it?
the year was 2018, and I was broken inside due to a toxic relationship with a toxic boyfriend. I had no idea I could just leave. In that same year, I met Jéssica at work. She was younger than me, but knew things I didn’t.
Her self-love overflowed, and I was lucky to be by her side with my empty cup and the humbleness to listen. My old friends had already tried to heal my broken wings, but I became good at dodging their advice and faking my feelings. I admit I tend to ignore advice, especially from my sister. Later, I ask her, “Why didn’t you tell me?” — of course, she did.
In the spring of 2025, Jéssica invited me to officiate at her wedding, and I immediately said yes. I would not only be honoured, but would also have the chance to share with many people what we had elaborated about love over the years of friendship and shared experiences.
Our conversations were the way out of the situation I was trapped in. She showed me I wasn’t crazy or ungrateful. Or asking too much, and most importantly, she made it crystal clear that it wasn’t supposed to be sour and uncomfortable. Not now and then, not ever.
Our 60-minute lunchtimes at work were not only for eating, but for long chats about what a healthy relationship is, what is unacceptable, how we should communicate, how to develop intimacy, and what intimacy boundaries are. We compared, we talked about movies, and of course, we gossiped. She proved to me that romantic relationships were meant to be easy.
Jéssica became my life saviour, a great friend, and a woman whom I look after and care deeply for. Last Sunday, I put all I learned from her and her now husband into words and officiated their wedding in the most lovable, fun, and light ceremony I have ever witnessed. The vibe was pure love and joy.
The marriage I live today is, in many ways, inspired by hers—and I hope I can influence others in that direction too. I know there are different ways to love, different agreements to be made. But the basics, I believe, are universal.
To write the wedding ceremony, I interviewed a few of the bride and groom’s closest friends and decoded their Secret of Love. I think everyone should hear it.
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